9/18/2012

Attachment based homeschooling

So yesterday I talked about how I completely revolutionized the way I discipline my difficult child.  Now that I understand my son was acting out on purpose because he's seeking attachment time with me I've decided it's time to stop using attachment time as punishment and start using it to my advantage.

And that my friends includes getting him to do his school work.

I'm calling it attachment based homeschooling, and I'm totally making it up as I go along. The basic idea is to create an atmosphere conducive to bonding and attachment first, with learning as the secondary benefit. Which basically means that we're snuggling on the couch with a blankie and a clip board until further notice.

Again, it works like a charm. With his attachment issues, behavior issues and learning disabilities trying to get him to work at the table was like wrestling with a caged tiger. 2 hours of fighting for 20 minutes worth of work. Not really worth it.

Now that we're working on the premise that learning time is also cuddle time, he's all about it. I'm to a point where I can challenge him accademically instead of just challenging him physically and emotionally.

It's so beautiful to finally be on the same page. (see what I did there - same page? School? I'm so clever I don't know what to do with myself)

Anyway. I can also use the old method of schooling as leverage. More interested in cuddle time than learning? Guess it's time to go back to the kitchen table for some not so cozy learning.

That hard kitchen chair is kind of a rude awakening after the comfy couch. I'd do just about whatever it takes to avoid going back over there myself. He's not as dumb as he looks.

2 comments:

Ed and Carrie said...

THAT is inspiring! Thanks.

Melissa said...

I love your creative parenting. I think the couch is a great place to learn! Bring lots of books, a comfy blanket, and lots of hugs and learning. Hope it works!
Melissa

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